SPOTLIGHT: The Ultimate Guide to Wedding Guest Etiquette

✅ Take Behind-the-Scenes Photos
A new trend gaining popularity is capturing candid moments during the wedding. As long as the couple hasn’t requested no photos, this is a fun way to offer a unique perspective on the celebration. "Couples love all of the BTS footage and content that guests capture from their perspective at their wedding!" states Danae Johnsen, Wedding and Event Planning Manager at Hyatt Regency Lake Washington at Seattle’s Southport, "Whether it’s by providing a digital camera for guests or using a service that allows them to upload their images, these behind-the-scenes shots create lasting memories." Just be sure to respect the couple’s wishes if they’ve asked for limited photography during certain moments.

✅ Respect the Seating Chart

Don’t try to move things around or switch seats. The couple has put a lot of thought into the seating arrangements, and respecting this plan helps avoid confusion or uncomfortable situations. It's all part of ensuring the day goes smoothly for everyone involved.

✅ Be Mindful of the Open Bar

If the wedding includes an open bar, drink responsibly. Everyone is there to have a good time, but excessive drinking can quickly become a problem. Be conscious of how much you're consuming, and don’t overdo it—it’s important to keep the fun balanced and the mood light.

✅ Be Clear and Honest About Dietary Needs

If you have dietary restrictions or preferences, communicate them early. This helps the couple and caterers ensure everyone is well-fed and happy, without any last-minute surprises.

DON'T...

🚫 Bring an Uninvited Plus-One

While it might feel like a last-minute decision to bring a guest, Danae Johnsen of Hyatt Regency Lake Washington at Seattle’s Southport points out that showing up with someone who wasn’t invited can disrupt the couple’s planning and budget. If you’re unsure whether you were given a plus-one, it’s always best to double-check with the couple or the event coordinator before making any assumptions.

🚫 Wear White
(or Anything Too Close to White)
White, ivory, and other pale shades should be avoided - those colors are reserved for the bride. You don’t want to outshine the bride on her special day! Stick to other beautiful hues that complement the theme without drawing attention away from the main event.

🚫 Ignore RSVP Deadlines (or Show Up Without Responding)

A missing RSVP means the couple has to scramble to accommodate you, potentially upsetting the seating arrangements, catering and more. Always respond to invitations promptly!

🚫 Show Up Early

Arriving too early can cause unnecessary disruptions and put pressure on the event staff. While it’s important to be punctual, showing up well before the recommended arrival time can get in the way of last-minute preparations, like setting up seating or organizing decor. Aim to arrive at the suggested time so you don’t unintentionally disrupt the flow of the event. Giving the couple and vendors the time they need to finalize things will ensure you can enjoy the celebration without causing any unnecessary stress.

🚫 Criticize the Ceremony or Reception

Whether or not you like the food, the music or the décor, keep your opinions to yourself. It’s the couple’s special day, and they’ve put a lot of thought into every detail. If something isn’t to your taste, it’s best to focus on the celebration and not dwell on minor details.

🚫 Let Your Kids Roam Unattended

"Sure, you're at a reception and everyone is having a great time but if you brought your little one your number one priority is still them," states Dan Merscher from Indian Summer Golf and Country Club. “Kids like to cut loose and dance just like the rest of us, but that doesn't mean they can be left unattended. Getting caught up in the excitement is all part of the fun of celebrating but when a five-year-old sees a massive cake, you better be aware of where they are at all times ... speaking from experience."

🚫 Overindulge at The Bar

While it's great to enjoy a drink or two, excessive alcohol can lead to a less-than-ideal guest experience. From slurring speeches to uninvited dance floor “performances,” overdoing it can leave a bad impression

🚫 Grab Dessert Before the Couple
Did you know that it's considered poor etiquette to take from the dessert bar before the couple has had their moment to cut the cake or enjoy their favorite treats? As Danae Johnsen of Hyatt Regency Lake Washington at Seattle’s Southport, explains, allowing the newlyweds to share that special moment first ensures they’re able to savor their celebration without any distractions. So, hold off on the sweets until they’ve had their turn!

🚫 Snag Decor

Those gorgeous floral arrangements aren't party favors (unless stated otherwise). Unless explicitly mentioned, don’t assume you can take home any of the floral decor. Taking items without permission can lead to the couple incurring extra charges for missing pieces.

Main photo by Into Dust Photography, courtesy of Seattle Wedding Show